The Graduation
May24

The Graduation

So I was very cool with my boyfriend’s family and had known them for close to two years. They lived out of state, about 300 miles, so I would only see them when I joined my boyfriend (when my schedule permitted) on a road trip, which was about 3-4 times a year.

Anyway, my boyfriend wanted me to accompany him to visit his family for a special occasion: his little brother was graduating high school. [YAY!]  I thought that was all fine and dandy and was excited to attend the ceremony because his brother was such a great kid with a bright future.  The only problem was that my boyfriend planned on driving up on a Monday when the graduation was actually on Friday.  [TF you going up so early for?]

I told my boyfriend that timeframe wasn’t going to work for me because I’d have to miss too many days of work, but I’d be happy to meet him up there on Thursday night [I was gonna catch the bus] and he looked at me like I had two heads or was speaking German.

This led to an unexpected argument/shouting match [well he was doing the shouting] and him going off the deep end in my opinion.

Him: That’s messed up that you’re not trying to be there to support me and my family. I’m always at your family events!
Me: Ummmm yeah, my family is closer [10 miles away] and that’s the only reason why you see them more. If your family was closer, we’d see them a lot more too.  That’s not even a fair comparison though.
Him: But that’s my brother!
Me:
Exactly! That’s your brother. Not mine. You know I love your family, but I’m not using 5 days of leave for a graduation. Sorry.  I will catch the bus and meet you out there on Thursday night so that we can go to the graduation on Friday morning.
Him: You’re not being supportive!
Me: How am I not being supportive when I’m still planning on attending the graduation and will be with y’all for the entire weekend? I’m just not riding up there with you on Monday.

He stormed off and continued his rant calling me selfish and unsupportive.

THIS DATE RELATIONSHIP IS OVER!

So now he’s mad and not speaking to me and I guess I’m not going to the graduation at all it seems.

What sense does it make for me to burn a hole in my leave for a damn high school graduation for someone that isn’t even my brother? Hell, I’m not taking that many days off for my own brother. Mexico, yes. Family, HELL NO! If he wants me to use that many days off, that better include him and me on an exotic beach away from both of our families.

Sincerely,

Am I Trippin?

 

What would you do in this situation? Did he overreact? Was she being unreasonable? What would be a good resolution? Would you use 5 days of PTO for a high school graduation? How can they work this out?

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Too Honest
May17

Too Honest

So I matched with a guy on a dating app and we had a few back and forth messages. He said he wanted to take me out and I give him my number.

He texted me shortly thereafter with the standard “how’s the weather”, “how are you” off and on.  Although he never picked up the phone to talk to me, he attempted to see when I was free via text without officially asking me out.  He texted me a few days later to see if I wanted to meet later that night, but I told him that I had plans and suggested the following night.  He asked me if I was going on a date and I was astonished by the question.   I asked if he wanted the truth or a lie and he said the truth.  So, I told him yes, I had a date. He commenced to tell me that he has no time for a serial dater because that is a sick mentality.

THIS DATE IS OVER…before it even began!

 

Sincerely,

At Least I Was Honest

 

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Mr. Flaky
May10

Mr. Flaky

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So this guy I hadn’t spoken to since the beginning of the year called me around Thanksgiving to catch up.  I wasn’t too enthusiastic about his call because he had been unresponsive when I tried to reach him a few times previously, but I decided to hear him out.  Apparently, he moved out of the area, 1000+ miles to be exact [I would have known that had he kept in touch], and he wanted to get together.  I declined because I wasn’t going to make time to see someone who disappeared for damn near an entire year.

As a consolation, I humored the guy by having a video chat and  expressed my disappointment with how he handled things between us. He apologized and asked for forgiveness.  He said that since he didn’t do a good job of keeping in touch in the past [he probably had a damn girlfriend. lol], that he would do so moving forward to show that he was truly interested.

He kept his word and his communication did a complete 180. He was calling, texting, you name it, on a regular basis.  Although I didn’t take him too seriously because of the distance [something I shared with him], we remained cool.

He wanted to get back in my good graces for being M.I.A. earlier in the year and shared that he’d be in town a few days after Christmas.  He asked that I clear my schedule for Wednesday evening so that he could make it up to me.  He asked that I look into some things to do that were subway accessible since he wouldn’t be driving while in the area, so I sent over some suggestions: comedy show, bowling, concert, etc.  He selected the comedy show.

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One month later as scheduled, he arrived to town right after Christmas.  We spoke on the phone to discuss the logistics of our upcoming outing set for the following day and I let him know that the doors opened at 6:30p and showtime was at 7:30p.

On the day of our date, I called him when I got off of work at around 3pm, but he didn’t answer. I sent a text, but still no response.  [Uh oh! Not a good sign.] I decided not to get ready since he wasn’t responsive [If I can’t reach a person before we are supposed to meet, oftentimes I will not get ready], so I took a nap.

Barber

He called me at around 5:15pm saying he had just gotten back from the barbershop and needed to shower.[Uh oh! Getting right for our date! I see you playa!]  He asked if I thought we had enough time to catch the show and I said “yes” because the show didn’t start until 7:30pm and he was only a couple of metro stops away from the comedy club.

I rushed to get myself together since I had been napping when I received another call from the guy at around 6pm.

Him: Man, I don’t really feel like going out because I’ve been riding on the subway all day.

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This Date Is OVER!

I didn’t have the energy nor feel the need to argue with the guy for being so insensitive and simply said “ok”.  He proceeded to invite me over to where he was staying to “chill” [Chill? Man if you don’t get the hell on!], but I declined and ended the conversation.  He texted me few minutes later saying “you mad?”, but I didn’t bother to respond which prompted him to call me.

Him: Did you get my text?
Me: Yes. What’s up?
Him: Why didn’t you respond then?
Me: Because it wasn’t worth responding to.
Him:  Alright, well FUCK IT.
[Ends call]

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[Well damn! lol]

He texted me again:

I don’t see why you couldn’t come over here. It ain’t like I’m trying to f*ck or something. I genuinely wanted to see you. I just didn’t feel like having a car up here.

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Again, I didn’t bother replying to his message because it was pointless in my opinion.  I extended myself far enough by setting aside time in my schedule and found a location that was subway accessible both per his request.  So having any further dialogue with this primadonna was beneath me, although I should’ve just ignored his invitation to reconnect in the first place.  I was trying to see the good in him, but it didn’t work out.  Lesson learned!

Sincerely,

He Should’ve Stayed M.I.A.

What would you do in this situation?  Should she have bothered taking his initial call in November? Would you give him a second chance?

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Prom Night 2017…Adults Only
Apr24

Prom Night 2017…Adults Only

Maybe you loved prom…maybe you hated it…maybe you didn’t go at all. It doesn’t matter!!!! (The Rock Voice) Lol

The Thisdateisover.com team invites you to dust off that Chinese collared tux or that ruffled gown and join us for our 2nd Annual Prom Night…The Do-Over on Saturday, June 24th at 10pm at All Set Restaurant in Silver Spring, MD and recreate your prom experience as an adult. Purchase tickets at TDIOProm.Eventbrite.com.

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Happy Birthday To Us!
Apr20

Happy Birthday To Us!

If it’s your birthday, make some noise!


April is such a fabulous month. Why? Because both members of the thisdateisover.com team share birthdays in April! Angela’vs birthday is today, April 20th and Wally’s is Sunday, April 23rd, so show us some love!

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The Breakfast Club
Apr19

The Breakfast Club

So I met this guy through my internship and we hit it off very well. We kept in contact and went out on a few occasions.  I just so happened to be moving to his side of town, about 7 blocks away to be exact, so that was an added bonus. [Yay! More quality time.]

Once I got settled after about a week or so, he invited me to come over to his place for breakfast the coming Saturday morning [Hell yeah! Count me in! I love a man in the kitchen!].  He asked me the type of foods I liked so that he could have an idea of what to buy from the store and it was a pretty basic list from him to choose: bacon, eggs, waffles, pancakes, biscuits, potatoes, orange juice.  [This was just a list of the things I like for breakfast not to be interpreted that I wanted him to buy all of that.]

Saturday arrived and there was a little extra pep in my step because I was going to spend time with my potential boo him and the man was going to cook me breakfast. [Double your pleasure!] As I was putting on my shoes to head over to his house, he called me with some cockamayme story of only having eggs and that he thought he had pancake mix and blah blah blah, but he didn’t. [Sir, you said that you had this. I’m not understanding why you aren’t prepared. It’s not like I suggested this breakfast thing.] STRIKE ONE!

Of course, I was annoyed and thought about cancelling, but sh*t happens [I guess] and I decided to make the most of it by supplying items that I already had at home: bacon, waffles, orange juice, syrup, butter, and cheese [gotta have cheese in my eggs and I’m certain he didn’t have that either].

Breakfast was behind because I had to sit there and wait for him to cook since I provided the majority of the food instead of everything being ready when I arrived as initially planned, so I was STARVING. STRIKE TWO!

Breakfast was finally ready and we sat down to eat. As we both finished our meals, he got up from the table taking his plate only.  I assumed it was because he was going to grab seconds. Nope, he was done, as I saw him discarding his plate.  I asked him to take my plate since I had finished eating as well and his response was “the trash can is over there”. STRIKE THREE!

This Date Is OVER!

This dude outright refused to discard my plate and by that time, I had had enough. [Finally, right? lol]

Let’s recap…he invited me over so that he could fix breakfast, but I provided the bulk of the food which was not a part of the original plan and he couldn’t even discard my plate as a guest in his home.  Maybe I’m different or more hospitable, but when I’m cooking for a love interest, I serve and discard their plates….Oh and I have food readily available in my home because I go grocery shopping in ADVANCE because I like to be prepared [unless we discussed beforehand that he’s bringing the groceries.]

I got up, grabbed my things, left the plate on the table, and headed home.

I attribute this whole situation to being young, dumb, and partly smitten because I cannot fathom why I even went through with this date when it was jacked up at the onset. lol


Sincerely,

You Live & You Learn

 

What would you do in this situation?  Should he have cancelled or rescheduled the date? Did she overreact? What could he have done to save face?  Would you have continued the date with the guy?

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