Spoken For

So I was leaving a happy hour event and as I was walking to my car, my eyes became fixated on a handsome stranger. Apparently, he liked what he saw too and asked for my number…of course I obliged. We talked on the phone a few times and made plans to meet up for lunch the following week.

He took me to a new restaurant in the city and we were having a pretty good time. We starting talking about each other’s backgrounds, likes and dislikes, and somehow the conversation took a slight shift when the subject of college came about. He informed me that he didn’t go to college, which was not a big deal to me because he had a good job and a high school diploma. I thought perhaps he didn’t attend college because a) it didn’t interest him [Hey, I didn’t want to go to college, but my parents made me. lol] or b) he was away in the military during those prime years. Wrong and wrong. The guy was indeed away during those would-be college years. Where was he? IN PRISON….not jail…PRISON. The dude was locked up for murder and had only been out for one year after having served a 10 year sentence. [OH SH** Son! This cannot be real!] Of course, he said he didn’t do it and that it was a guilty by association incident, but who knows?

This date is OVER!!!!

Sike! The date wasn’t over. [Silly me!] Lol! I was actually trying to digest everything literally and figuratively. Surprisingly, we kept the conversation going and the date ended on a high note.

Over the next few days I kept going back and forth in my mind trying to rationalize dating this guy.

Well he served his time. So he deserves a second chance…Right?
God forgives and so should I…Right?
Maybe he didn’t do it. Black men get arrested all of the time on trumped up charges.
You know what? I’m gonna just keep a positive outlook on things and try to accept this man for who he is. He’s a nice guy and clearly very honest. Any other man would have probably lied about their background.

So I decided to keep the lines of communication open with this guy and continue to get to know him because of my sympathetic heart [if that’s what you want to call it].

On this one particular evening, we were on the phone discussing careers and he stated:

Him: I want my woman to make more money than me.
Me: So you want a woman to take care of you.
Him: Nah. It’s not even like that.
Me: That’s exactly what it sounds like to me.
Him: I want my woman to make more money than me because if I lose my job, we’ll have something to fall back on.
Me: That makes no sense and sounds a little backwards to me.

I ended the conversation because I felt myself becoming annoyed at his BS statement about the woman making more money. Why the eff would he be focusing on losing a job though? And if he had a woman, hypothetically speaking, and the both of them were working, how is her one income going to take care of home when there were initially two incomes (his and hers) in the event that he lost his job? That makes no sense to me. [Dude is looking for a sugar momma and I am NOT the one!]

Ok…I’m rambling….MOVING ON

Anyway, he wanted to link up again, but my schedule was very hectic at that time because I was working a major military convention (13+ hour days) and I told him that it would be best for us to link up the following week. [Why I was still entertaining the thought of seeing this guy is beyond me!] Well before we hung up the phone, he said to me:

Him: Tell those military men you’re spoken for.
Me: Excuse me?
Him: Tell those military men you’re spoken for.
Me: Spoken for by who?
Him: Me

This date is OVER!

I already overlooked your extended stay in the penitentiary and your nonsense line about wanting a woman to take care of make more money than you. Now you’re trying to lock me down after three weeks? I can’t deal!

I was so incredibly turned off and never talked to that dude again. For the life of me, I cannot understand why I was more upset about this guy forcing a commitment/relationship than him being locked up for murder. Lol

Sincerely,

I Have Issues!


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